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The Three Friends

Once the Prophet of God, Hazrat Muhammad (S) was sitting amidst his Sahaba (Companions) in the mosque when all of a sudden he said: “Today I shall narrate a story to you all which will reveal three riddles for all of you to solve.” This hushed the crowd and they all listened to what the Holy Prophet had to say.
Hazrat Muhammad (S) continued by saying that once a man got to know that the days in his life was numbered and very soon he would be confronted with death. With this knowledge he feared his loneliness in the grave and went searching for true friends who would help and accompany him.
He knocked on the door of his first friend and asked whether he would help. To this the friend said, “of course, what are we here for.” But then the man went on to say that he had very few days to live after which he required help. As soon as he uttered this statement, the friend said: “I am sorry but when death does us apart, there is nothing we can do for you but buy you a place in the graveyard and some cloth (Kafan/Shroud) to cover your dead body.” Grieved but looking forward to his next friend, the man moved on.
On the second door, when he came face to face with his friend, and after narrating the entire story of his death and asked for help, the same answer was his fate again. The second friend said: “I have been there with you all your life and can help you here. But there's nothing I can do for you after you die except take your corpse to the graveyard and bury you.”
Lost in agony and despair, he headed for the third friend, very sure that he would receive the same answer but there was a tinge of hope left. When he confronted the third friend, and told him that he required help, the friend eagerly volunteered to help. But the man continued to say that I need help after I die. To which the third friend replied, “Do not worry, my dear friend! I shall accompany you to the grave, be there with you in the grave, even when the angels arrive for questioning (Munkar-o-Nakeer), then assist you on the bridge (Pul-e-Sirat) and then lead you to heaven.” To this the man heaved a sigh of relief and then passed away in peace.
The Prophet of God (pbuh) then turned and asked his companions if anybody could identify the three friends and the man. When the prevailing silence didn't dissolve, the Holy Prophet continued to say, “The man in the anecdote is any other human being.” The first friend is “money/wealth”, things that help us only in life and not after we die.
The second family/friend was the “children (sons and daughters)”, we strive for them all our life and all they give us is a shoulder to the grave.
And the third and most important friend is “deeds (Aamal).” Who accompany us all the way through.
Moral: Do not strive for materialistic values that will give you nothing and help you in no way in your eternal life. But work and pray and ask forgiveness from Almighty God for only the good deeds assist mankind where every other thing loses value in the life hereafter!
Holy Prophet Muhammad (S) said:
1. “There are three friends of Human being - Wealth, Family and His Deeds.”
2. “Verily the love of this world is the root-cause of every evil”
3. “Who is most in danger?” Imam Sajjad (pbuh) replied: “The one who does not regard the world dangerous for himself.”

Man's Negligence
Old age is a completely new experience for a person. Life loses all its meaning. One sees that one is about to plunge into an unknown world. One longs for a ray of hope at this decisive time; but death catches one unprepared. Suddenly one is robbed of all one's freedom. One enters a world where one is helpless and forlorn.
Death haunts us all. We tend to forget about it in our youth, but eventually the hand of fate holds sway. When our life on earth has run its course we are taken to a world of darkness a world in which we will be bewildered and confused because we had not prepared for it on earth.
In the daytime name knows that night is coming. He organizes his day in accordance with this knowledge. Then, when night falls, he is sure that soon a new day will break. Yet few are conscious of the coming of the hereafter. Few look forward to life death as one who travels by day looks forward to the coming night. Even fewer realize that we will be exposed to the raging fire of hell after death. Everyone seems to think that death and hell are for others, not for himself.In the daytime name knows that night is coming. He organizes his day in accordance with this knowledge. Then, when night falls, he is sure that soon a new day will break. Yet few are conscious of the coming of the hereafter. Few look forward to life death as one who travels by day looks forward to the coming night. Even fewer realize that we will be exposed to the raging fire of hell after death. Everyone seems to think that death and hell are for others, not for himself.

Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end
There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days. All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else. Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance. It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed. Your grudges, resentments, frustrations, and jealousies will finally disappear. So, too, your hopes, ambitions, plans, and to-do lists will expire. The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away. It won't matter where you came from, or on what side of the tracks you lived, at the end. It won't matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant.
Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant. So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured? What will matter is not what you bought, but what you built; not what you got, but what you gave. What will matter is not your success, but your significance. What will matter is not what you learned, but what you taught. What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.
What will matter is not your competence, but your character. What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you're gone. What will matter are not your memories, but the memories that live in those who loved you. What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what. Living a life that matters doesn't happen by accident. It's not a matter of circumstance but of choice. Choose to live a life that matters.
“We make a living by what we get; we make a life by what we give.”We make a living by what we get; we make a life by what we give.”

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