Akhlaq (Ethics) Lessons for Children
Saying Alhamdulillah is a way of thanking Allah.
Alhamdulillah means all thanks is to Allah because Allah made everything and He is the most Powerful.
Why do we thank Him?
We thank him because of all the lovely things He has given us:
Eyes to see with.
Close your eyes and try walking, it is very difficult when you can't see where you are going. So say Alhamdulillah for your eyes.
Ears to hear with.
If you didn't have ears then you would not be able to hear me now. So say Alhamdulillah for your ears.
Hands so we can do things.
Put your hands behind your back, now try picking up your pencil without your hands. You can't. So say Alhamdulillah for your hands
Legs so that you can walk and play.
If I tied up your legs, could you walk - No! So say Alhamdulillah for your legs.
One of the best things Allah has given us is the Brain. It helps us to understand things and know what is good and what is bad. So say Alhamdulillah for your brain.
And let us try to use our brains and do only good things which Allah likes. Because He has given us so much.
Allah has given us our mummy and daddy, who love us and take care of us.
We are Muslims, which means that every thing we do is for Allah.
Allah tells us that all Muslims are brothers and that we should care for each other.
By saying Jazakallah you are not just saying thank you but you are telling the person that you love and care about them because you are asking Allah to reward them for what they have done for you.
Jazakallah means: May Allah reward you.
By saying Jazakallah you are not only thanking the person but you are asking Allah to give them more thawaab so that they may go to heaven.
(IF ALLAH WILLS)
Allah says in the Holy Qur'an, Sura Ali Imran, verse 54:
"And they planned, and Allah planned, and Allah is the best of planners."
The above verse teaches us that no matter how much we plan something, if Allah does not want it to happen it will not. For example, Fir'aun planned to kill Prophet Musa (A) but Allah saved him.
When you have decided to do something you should always say "I will do ……. Inshallah."
Inshallah means that if Allah wants you to do it then you will do it.
Talib's mummy had told him again and again to say Inshallah after he said he was going to do something.
One day Talib was talking to his friend and told him that he was going to go to the fun fair with his parents.
Talib's mummy heard him and told him that he should have said that he was going to go to the fun fair INSHALLAH.
Talib replied that it was for sure that he was going because his daddy had bought the tickets and had promised to take him.
That evening when it was time to go to the fun fair, Talib and his parents got in the car because the fun fair was quite far and started driving to the fun fair.
A little while later the car started making funny noises and stopped. Talib's daddy got out to see what the matter was but he could not get the car to start again.
The mechanic was phoned but by the time he came and fixed the car it was too late to go to the fun fair, so Talib and his parents drove back home.
The next day Talib was talking to his friend and you could hear him saying 'Inshallah' after everything he was planning to do. This is what it sounded like:
"I am going to go to school tomorrow Inshallah, then after school I am going to my cousin's house Inshallah. We will both then go shopping Inshallah to buy a birthday present for the party Inshallah which we will both go to Inshallah.
ALL CREATURES OF ALLAH ARE IMPORTANT
Allah listens to the prayers of all his creatures, no matter how small or big they may be. No matter how rich or poor they may be. Allah loves them all.
A long time ago, in the time of Prophet Sulaiman (A), there had been no rain for a long time. All the plants were dying and the people had very little food.
The people of Palestine asked Prophet Sulaiman (A) to pray for rain for them.
Prophet Sulaiman (A) came out with his people to pray for rain. Suddenly he saw an ant standing on its two legs, raising his hands up to the sky and saying:
"Oh Allah! We are but very small among all Your creatures. We cannot survive without Your help. Please send down the rains so that the trees can grow, farms become green and grains grow so that we have our food to eat."
Prophet Sulaiman (A) who knew the language of the animals, told his people that they could all go home as the prayer of the little ant was enough.
It then rained heavily and all the land became green.
No matter who or what you are. No matter how big or small you are. Allah loves you and listens to your prayers (Du'a) if they are from your heart.
BEING HAPPY - SMILING
The Holy Prophet (S) has said that the act most liked by Allah is making the believers happy.
If you are happy then people around you will be happy. If you are sad then the people around you will be sad.
So when you are happy, people will want to be with you but if you are sad then people will leave you on your own because they do not want to be sad as well.
When you are happy you are telling everyone that you are pleased with whatever Allah has decided for you. This is why you should say 'Alhamdulillah' when things go as you want and even when they do not.
When you are sad you are telling everyone that you are not pleased with what Allah has given you and that He has made a mistake, and that you know better than Him.
Our 8th Imam, Imam Ali ar-Reza (A) has said that Allah will give a good reward (lots of thawaab) to a person who smiles when he meets another Muslim.
Your actions speak louder than words, people see you before they hear you. By you smiling you are telling people that you love them and you are happy to see them.
Whenever anyone was rude to the Holy Prophet (S) or the Imams (A), they used to just smile at them and be nice to them. The person who had been rude would immediately feel ashamed of his actions.
DO NOT BE SELFISH
Allah says in the Holy Qur'an in Sura Al-Qasas, verse 77:
"Do favours to others just as Allah has done favours to you."
The above verse teaches us that what ever we have is from Allah and Allah says that just as He gives to us we should give to others and not be selfish.
If someone tells you to do something and you will get a present, you would do that thing if you could. For example, when you are told that if you finish your food you will get a present you will finish your food quickly.
Allah has given you so much without asking for anything in return and He has also promised to give you so much more if you listen to Him.
Islam teaches you to care for each other. The Holy Prophet (S) has said that if a person does not care about other Muslims then he himself is not a Muslim.
To be selfish is to think and want everything for yourself and no-one else.
Selfish people have no friends because they do not like to share, they want everything for themselves.
Allah does not like for you to be selfish. Allah says that if you are not selfish and give to other people from your things then He will give you a 100 times more because He is the best of givers.
TO SAY SALAWAAT
Allah says in the Holy Qur'an in Sura Al-Ahzab, verse 56:
"Surely Allah and His angels send blessings on the Prophet. O you who believe send blessings on him.."
O Allah! Send Your blessings on Muhammad and his Ahlulbayt.
The Ahlulbayt means "The People of the House". They are the family of the Prophet (S), who are Bibi Fatima (A) and the 12 Imams (A). Whenever you hear the name of our Holy Prophet (S) or his Ahlulbayt (family) you should say Salawaat.
When you hear the name of our 12th Imam, Imam Muhammad al-Mahdi (A) you should not only say Salawaat but stand up and put your right hand on your head and bow down your head. This is because our 12th Imam (A) is still alive.
When you are sitting not knowing what to do, (in mosque when you do not understand the talk), you should say as many Salawaat as you can.
When you are saying Salawaat you are asking Allah to send His blessings to the Holy Prophet (S) and his Ahlulbayt (A) and Inshallah on the day of Qiyama (judgement) the Holy Prophet (S) and his Ahlulbayt (A) will ask Allah to forgive you in return for all the Salawaat you sent to them.
When you sneeze you should say:
This means All praise is to Allah.
We are told that when we are awoken from the grave for the day of Qiyama (judgement), we will awake with a sneeze.
If you are in the habit of saying 'Alhamdulillah' every time you sneeze, then on that day also you will say 'Alhamdulillah' when you awake with a sneeze.
When you sneeze you should also put your hands in front of your mouth so that you do not pass your germs to anyone else and give them your cold.
When someone else sneezes you should say:
Which means may Allah bless you.
You say 'Yarhamukallah' when someone else sneezes because Islam teaches you to care for each other.
(The story of the 12th Imam (A))
MANNERS BEFORE A LESSON
In the name of Allah, the most kind and the most merciful.
Then because you want to learn you should say:
Which means: O my Lord, increase my knowledge.
Knowledge is what you learn and what you know. It is important not only to learn and know things but to act on them, otherwise the knowledge you have is useless.
It is every Muslim's duty to gain knowledge, learn as much as you can. To gain knowledge you have to listen to what you are being taught and not talk.
You should thank the person who is teaching you. Then you should use that knowledge to make yourself a better person and also teach others (your younger brothers or sisters, and your friends) what you have learnt.
When you are doing your lesson you should pay attention to what you are doing.
Remember always to concentrate on your lesson and not watch television for example:
Work while you work,
Play while you play,
One thing each time,
That is the way,
All that you do,
Do with your might,
Things done by halves,
Are not done right.
MANNERS OF SLEEPING
Before going to bed, you should brush your teeth and do wudhu.
You should kiss and hug your mummy and daddy and say Fi-Amanillah or Khudah-Hafiz.
Before going to sleep you should think of all the things that have happened in the day.
Think of all your good and bad deeds in the day. Think to yourself which angel has done more writing today: the angel on your right shoulder, writing all your good deeds or the angel on your left shoulder, writing all your bad deeds.
Say sorry to Allah for anything bad that you have done and promise that you will not do it again. If you have been mean to anyone, tell yourself that tomorrow you will say sorry to them.
You should sleep on your back or your right side. It is the way of Shaitan to sleep on your tummy.
Finally before closing your eyes, remember Allah by reciting any Sura from the Holy Qur'an that you know, and thank Him for everything!
O Allah with Your name I live and die.
(As sleep is like death, but only temporary.)
MANNERS OF WAKING UP
Every morning when you wake up, you should start your day with this small morning Du'a:
In the name of Allah the most Kind and the most Merciful.
Praise be to Allah who gave us life after death and to Him we will return.
Sleep is like death where we are taken up to Allah but then Allah lets us come back. When we die we will go to Allah and stay with Him. We will not be able to come back.
In the du'a you are thanking Allah for sending you back and also you are telling Him that you know that you will go back to Him.
When you have said your du'a you should get out of your bed and go and knock on the door of your parent's room.
Only when your parents have given you permission to enter, you should go into their room and give both your mummy and daddy a big hug and say:
You should then put on your slippers and go to the toilet.