Acceptance of reconciliation and agreement is also obligatory
By: Ayatullah Shaheed Syed Abdul Husayn Dastaghaib Shirazi
Some questions are asked regarding the meaning of this holy verse. So it is necessary that they should be clearly explained from the pulpit. One of the friends said, "You are advising us all to make amends of restrained relations; I have a dispute with a gentleman for the last four years. I went from this Jama Masjid straight to his house for making peace but he rejected me very forcefully and did not listen to me at all. Have I any more responsibility in this regard?"
Here it must be known that, in Islam, such orders are applicable to both the parties, they are not one-sided. For example, here it is commanded: Make peace. Similarly, it is also necessary for the other party to respond positively for making peace. If we have asked you to go to the other party, the other one is also expected to give a positive response. This is very important. It is reported that the Holy Prophet said, "My intercession will not be available to the one who does not accept the apology or excuse of a peacemaker, not withstanding whether the peacemaker tells the truth or lies."
There came about a discussion between you and him. Now he came and apologies. He says, "Please excuse me. I made a mistake. Please pardon me." It is ordered (by God) that you must oblige. It has been forcefully commanded that you must at once respond saying, "Very well. I let it go." The Holy Qur’an clearly commands: "Then forgive." This is a firm order. Forgive and even ignore a bad word as if you did not hear it. The order is, do pardon even if one has told a lie for peace making. If he says, "I was doubtful." Reply, "All right, let it be." Forget an event. God also promises that He will forgive and pardon you.
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"Do you not love that Allah should forgive you?"
Do you not like that God may pardon you? During the nights and at days in Ramadhan you recite: O Lord! Forgive me. Pardon me. One who seeks pardon should be a pardoner and a forgiver himself. How can one who does not forgive others, request God to forgive him?
Everyone who is not acting according to his words is not praying sincerely and in its real sense. It is mere wordplay. It is false to say a thousand times
: "O God! O the Most Merciful one! Have mercy on me during my first night in grave." He is lying. If mercy is a nice thing and if he wants it, why he himself does not have this virtue? Why are you not kind to your wife and children? Why do you not have mercy on your friend? Why do you not help a weak person? This shows that, really, you do not want mercy. Only your tongue says so. It is same about saying: Pardon! You always say, "My God, pardon me." You say in your night prayer, "O Lord! Pardon my sins. Forgive my evil deeds." Is forgiving good or bad? You will say, "By God! It is very good." Then why did you not do it yourself? Today, they came to you for making peace.
Why did you become tough and stubborn? If God has ordered to make peace He has also commanded that an offer of peace making also should be responded to. The command applies to both the parties at dispute. If someone comes to you to make peace, you have no right to turn away your face. It is incumbent on you to accept his excuse, even if you know that he is not telling the truth. If you do not respond positively to him, you have deprived yourself of the Prophet ‘s intercession.
There are two instances wherein the Holy Prophet has quite clearly said that his intercession is not available. Woe unto the one who missed this great reward. He is the one who did not accept the excuse of a peacemaker. Another unfortunate fellow is the one who considered prayer light (of less value).